Back in college, Facebook was still relatively new on the world stage and folks were still discovering how they could use it the best way possible. Well, there were a chunk of a that were obsessed with the poke functionality where you could poke someone else. We had these massive poking wars.
Well, the other day, I was in Facebook and I got thinking about poking. While the task may seem inane at first, there is actually something really cool about it. What you’re saying when you poke someone is “Hey, I’m thinking about you right now and I wanted you to know about it.”
In Facebook, you see this type of interaction in other ways. You can “like” something that someone has posted to their Wall. You can comment on something that somone has posted. You can post something on someone else’s wall.
When you do one of these things to a person, you’re telling them that you’re thinking about them and that you read their stuff. They’re special to you. They’re worth your attention. You want to stay connected with them.
No one likes the feeling when they post something or share something that they’re posting it into a vacuum and no one will actually read it. When you get that feedback or that interaction, it makes you feel special because someone to that time out of their day just for you. It makes you want to share more.
These small interactions… these small touches help you maintain your social capital with your relationships. When you have social capital with someone, if you don’t stay in touch with them, the social capital… the desire to want to go of your way to help that person starts to have a shelf life. It’s too easy for things to become “out of sight… out of mind.”
When you have a relationship that’s built on trust, it’s important to do those small things which show the person that you continue to care about them and take interest in them.
It’s not all on Faceebook either. If you read someone’s blog, take 2 seconds and write a comment like “cool post.” If you travel a lot, pick up a gift from that country for a friend of yours.
How have you been blessed by a small touch, interaction, or poke?